What To Do If A Loved One Is Depressed… Insight from a Child & Family Therapist
Depression Affects People Across the Lifespan.
It can creep up or arrive full force. It can be subtle or painfully obvious. It can impact how we see ourselves or how we see other people. It can feel overwhelming, isolating and confusing.
Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
Children experience depression. Teenagers experience depression. Young adults experience depression. Middle-aged adults experience depression. Older adults experience depression. For each of these different developmental stages, there are unique challenges but universal truths.
Depression can occur throughout the year. It can be seasonal. It can be short-term and/or long-term. It can be connected to anxiety, trauma, grief, and/or major life transitions. Our experiences, our environments (past and present), genetics, physical health issues, stress, and hormones can all play a role.
Showing Up
Regardless of the cause, depression hurts. We do not need to fully understand exactly how our child(ren), sibling, partner, parent, relative, friend, co-worker, and/or neighbor feels to provide support. We can still show-up and listen. We can let our loved ones know they are not alone, even if they often feel like they are.
Children need reassurance and comfort. Teenagers need space and social connection. Young adults need guidance and affirmation. Middle-aged adults need space and stillness. Older adults need engagement and time. All people, regardless of age, need help, hope and healing.
Taking Action
We do not need to be (nor should we be) our loved ones’ therapist. There are plenty of qualified, licensed professionals available. We do not need to have all of the solutions or answers. There is no script. Simply showing-up, each and every day, is a start. Being there, in-person and/or virtually, makes all the difference. And when it’s clearly not enough, encourage your loved one(s) to reach out for support. We do not need to walk through life alone. Connection is our greatest strength, even and especially in a virtual world.
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